Acknowledgments
About the Author
Preface
Introduction: Bullying and Bystanderism
The Elephant in the Room
The Continuum to Action
If We Do What We’ve Always Done- We’ll Get What We’ve Always Got
Turning on the Lights
Action - Pulse Check
1. The Team Approach to Safe Schools
What is a Safe Schools Team?
Creating a Safe Schools Team in Your School
Case Study – Who’s On Your Team?
Action – Planning Your Team
I. Pre-Bystanderism
2. Personal History Primes Perceptions
Following the Path Backwards
A Friend and A Foe
The Priming Problem
Broadening the Path
Case Study – Can You Spot The Bully?
Action – Fact Or Myth Activity
3. Good Intentions Can Get Lost
The Kitty Genovese Story
Good Samaritans – The Parable From Jerusalem to Jericho
The Bystander Affect – What Affects the Bystander?
Case Study – What Do You See?
Action – Hot Spots
II. Decision Making
4. Broken Culture – A Window of Opportunity
Broken Windows From New York to Your School
What Are Your Broken Windows?
The Counter Argument – It’s Not the Windows
Case Study – What Is Your Line in the Sand?
Action – Dotmocracy
5. Math Can Make Bystanderism Manageable
The 80-20 Rule
Doing the Math
More Math – The Two by Ten Strategy
Even More Math – The Multiplier Effect
Can We Change Lives?
Case Study: Who Would You Choose?
Action – Math, Math and Even More Math
6. What Supervision of Students Really Entails
Meeting Myles
It’s Not The Wrong Place
Understanding the Responsibility of Supervision
Case Study: Spot the Supervision Problem
Action – Super Supervision
7. The Importance of Being Able to Say What You Mean
What is Mitigation?
Opaqueness - The Real Cost of Lies is That They Obscure the Truth
Lessons From Korean Air
Crucial Conversations – Fact vs. Stories
Case Study – What Would You Say?
Action – Common Language
8. Action at All Level
Satisfice is Not Enough
Enhanced Realities
Case Study: Where Did Things Go Wrong?
Action – Character Counts
III. Post Bystandersim
9. Closing the Circle of Communication
Knowing What to Say
Gen X Grew Up – Communicating With a New Generation of Parents
It Takes a Village – Communicating With Everyone
Case Study – What Will You Say?
Action – Communication 101
Final Thoughts
Appendix
Creating a Culture of Action - Breaking the Bystander Cycle: Moving Education Professionals from Bystander to Intervener (Original Article)
Definitions of the Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander
Bullying and You: The Perspective of Educational Professionals (Survey)
Leet Speak Dictionary
References
Index